Dickey: Stop the hypocrisy and let Tiger move on 

Whatever Tiger Woods says this morning, I hope we can finally end the hypocrisy about his sexual adventures.

News flash: Men like sex and will often take ridiculous risks to get it. To cite just two recent examples from the political world: John Edwards, campaigning for the presidency and with a wife dying of cancer, had an affair and fathered a child. Also, Mark Sanford, governor of South Carolina, claimed that he was hiking in the Appalachians while actually flying to Argentina to be with his mistress.

And these are mature men. The sex drive is much stronger among younger men. My knowledge of politics is second-hand, but I’ve been on the sports scene for decades and know of many athletes with multiple sexual conquests.

When I covered the Raiders, players would have women in their beds at the hotel in which they stayed during training camp. Once on a road trip, I was reading in the lobby of the hotel in which we were staying. At midnight — curfew time — a dozen or so giggling women came out of the elevators, walked outside and went right back to the players’ rooms.

Another news flash: Men who are handsome, famous or rich have no trouble attracting women. With Tiger, it was the trifecta. Plus, he had multiple opportunities because, playing golf, he was on a perpetual road trip. And playing a round of golf didn’t leave him too fatigued for other recreation.

The news of his gallivanting was a bombshell because golfers haven’t been known for this kind of behavior. Tiger, especially, seemed clean. But we’re the ones who created that myth, not Tiger.

I don’t approve of his behavior. My wife and I will celebrate our 43rd anniversary this month and my life has centered around my wife and son. Nearly six years ago, our daughter-in-law was added to the equation.

But I am honest enough to admit that one reason for my fidelity has been lack of opportunity. So, I have resisted the urge to moralize about Tiger’s problems.

Others haven’t. Photographers have followed Tiger everywhere. Women have popped up all around the country, claiming to have had relations with Tiger, which may or may not be true. Columnists have cheerfully pilloried Tiger for his actions. It’s amusing to read stories saying he’s been “in seclusion.” True, he hasn’t talked to the media but his movements have been tracked, both in photos and in print.

Now, he’ll finally speak for himself, though in a protected situation with limited media access and no questions asked.

I have two wishes: first, that he is able to save his marriage, which he seems to want to do.

Second, that he returns to playing. He has been a very special athlete, perhaps the greatest golfer ever, a dynamic performer.

This is an especially important time because the U.S. Open is at Pebble Beach this year. I was there for the last one in 2000, and it was one of the most exciting sports events in my experience.

But, most of all, I hope all of us can back off from this frenzy about his sexual adventures. Enough, already!

Glenn Dickey has been covering Bay Area sports since 1963 and also writes on www.GlennDickey.com. E-mail him at glenndickey@hotmail.com.

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