Carly Fiorina doesn't owe Barbara Boxer an apology for private hair remark 

When Carly Fiorina made fun of Barbara Boxer’s hair this week, female bloggers, pundits, and columnists screamed for an immediate apology from Ms. Fiorina. Come on gals, really, as if you want to be held responsible for every comment you have made chatting away with colleagues and co-workers. Put a live mic and camera in front of your face and I bet your demeanor and the content of your comments changes rapidly.

And all this talk of a double-standard between men and women, women taking two steps back for every step forward, and how 'middle-school' the whole thing was, well we still haven't finished dishing about John Edward's and his hair. How middle-school is that?  To whom should I apologize? 

Women and men alike gossip about physical appearance. Sarah Palin's hooters have recently been burning up blogs and web sites.  So it isn't ok for Carly to chat about her opponent's hair believing that what she said was not being broadcast around the world and it IS ok for the media to speculate about the size of Sarah Palin's equipment?

And if we want to speak about apologies, where were all the demands for apologies when Senator Boxer made this comment? In a video clip Fiorina's campaign staff should broadcast on every available California air wave until the election, Boxer insists in a 2009 Senate hearing Brigadier General Michael Walsh address her as "Senator" as opposed to "Ma'am." She defends her request with "It's just a thing.  I worked so hard to get that title."

She worked hard for that title?  Was she implying that a soldier, who signs up to risk life and limb for the safety and security of every citizen of this country, hasn't earned the honor to not be publicly insulted? Following military protocol the general correctly addressed a higher ranking official as "Ma'am." It was reported that Boxer telephoned the general to discuss the matter.  To my knowledge, there has been no "apology."

So I ask, where again is that double-standard? Fiorina, the Republican senatorial candidate, had her ill-mannered gaffe replayed far and wide on national and cable television, on the radio, in the headlines. The media demanded an apology. Boxer, the Democratic senator, gets a pass. Where were all the etiquette mavens in 2009 when Boxer publicly insulted a general for using the language protocol says he should use?

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